You’re looking for a girlfriend. Let’s get to the point and focus on the essentials. You need to have confidence first. Consider it your secret weapon. You’re a knight in armor without it. Read more now on effective methods to get a gf.
Be yourself, but better
You’ve heard it before: “Just be yourself.” This is a good advice, but add this twist: Be the best version you can be. Focus on your hobbies and passions. Let your passions shine, whether it is playing the guitar or cooking a feast in the kitchen. When you are doing what you love, confidence comes naturally.
Dress to the Part
Imagine attending an interview in your pajamas. That’s not going to happen, right? Dating is no different. Dressing like James Bond is not necessary, but you should make an effort to look good. A clean outfit, good hygiene and a little cologne may make a big difference.
Master Small Talk
Sometimes, starting a conversation can be a real challenge. Ask open-ended, non-binary questions. Asking if she enjoys music is a silly question. Instead, ask her what type of music she listens to and why. This opens the door to a deeper conversation.
Listen More Than You Talk
There’s a good reason why we have two ears and one tongue! Show that you are genuinely interested in what she is saying. Keep eye contact and nod in agreement. Add relevant comments as you go. This shows her that you respect and value her opinions.
Humor can be your friend
A good laugh will break the ice more quickly than anything else. Let jokes flow naturally and let them be part of your conversation. It’s also good to use self-deprecating jokes. They show humility and make you more relatable.
Plan Fun Dates
Dinner dates can become stale very quickly. Try something new! Try a new activity, such as a hike or stepping into an art gallery. Or, try experimenting with quaint cafes downtown that have board games on display. Shared memories are created by shared experiences.
Be Respectful
This should go without saying but respect is paramount in any relationship-building process. Respect her by being punctual, respect her space by avoiding being too clingy and respect her boundaries by avoiding topics that she is uncomfortable with.
Stay Positive
No one likes Negative Nancys or Pessimistic Petes! Start off with lighthearted topics and save the heavier ones for after you have built rapport.
Show Genuine Interest
Engage! Asking follow-ups questions shows you are paying attention to what she says and that you care.
Patience is the Key
Rome was not built in a single day, and neither is a meaningful relationship. Slow down and don’t rush into romance immediately after meeting someone.
Anecdote : I knew a guy who had a crush on a girl, but he texted her every hour at the hour starting from day one. Major turn-off alert. He was desperate and not interested, so they never got past the second date.
Take cues (pun intended) from her responses both verbally and non-verbally, before you make any grand gestures or declare your love!
Keep in mind that dating isn’t rocket-science, even though it can sometimes feel like solving Rubik’s Cube blindfolded…with gloves on…but if you keep these tips close at hand, you’ll be able to navigate your way through.
Grab life by the horns and go win your heart!